So...ive decided to start blogging. People have been telling me to do it for so long now and, lately i've been feeling like ive got lots to say. So, here goes... im gonna blog about whatever the heck i wanna blog about. Whatever bothers me, or makes me happy that day. If you love it, get it, feel me....then great! If you don't...thats cool too
For my 1st blog topic i have chosen "HOLLERATION" (we can thank Mary J & Bruce Miller for this term. Family Affair*) I feel this topic is extremely fitting seeing as how we are approaching the warmer months here in NYC.
So far we've had about 7 really nice days where we reached 70 degrees or better and the holleration has been crazzzyyyy. My inner voice often wonders "Am I the only girl who dreads walking past corner stores, parks, construction sites, barber shops, and any other place where holleration in abundance is gonna have to be endured?" Then when in my car, safe from it all (kinda) and i see my fellow girly walking the street with a look of horror on her face as she is YELLED at, I am reassured by that same voice. "No Lydia, you are not alone"
Now this subject is sorta hypocritical and ill explain why. No girl wants to be the only female that no dudes wanna bag. Cmon ladies, lets not kid ourselves, a little attention, compliments, a whistle, or a "wow" in passing sometimes boosts the ego a bit. I can honestly say, we are not mad at that. I'll even go as far as to say that on a good day (we know when were having a good day) if NOBODY tries to holla, we might even be a little confused. Do a booger check, maybe a pimple popped up somewhere, i mean NO holleration? Somethings gotta give. Its safe to say, a little attention keeps us feeling that extra boost of confidence.
Now here's the meat and potatoes of it all. Yes a little attention is cool, HOWEVER the holleration that is dished out nowadays.....is SCARY. Fellas, simply put...you guys go HAM. Dudes act like they have never, ever ever ever everrrrr seen a woman (not even a pretty one, a woman period) in their LIFE. You walk out of your house and from the moment you hit the sidewalk, to the moment your red bottoms click back up the driveway at the end of the day. NON STOP HOLLERATION.
It's so bad that Ive developed a theory. I would say that 85 percent of the guys out there are simply playing the numbers game. "If I try and holla at 20 women a day, I'm bound to lock at least ONE down". Quantity Vs quality. The other 15 percent of you are the normal ones who meet females through common social settings or through friends.
Now, here's the question. Is all this wrong?? Well....that's a matter of opinion. It's human nature, a man sees a woman he likes and may want to have in some way, and he will PROBABLY go after her. Fellas, in the jungle out here called the dating game (from first convo, all the way up to popping the question) there are some "first meeting her" tips that may help you along the way, and make us all happier. Here they go...
1. If her headphones are in her ear, she sees you and looks right back to her ipod ....leave her alone.
2.If she's speed walking, it means she's probably rushing....leave her alone.
3. If she's on the phone.....just stop it 5.
4. Questions are fine!! BUT, instead of starting the convo like "Hey Beautiful, what's your name?" start it like this........ "Do you mind if I walk with you?" or " Hello, can I ask you a question?" Don't just start walking next to her assuming she wants your company, or conversation! Believe me if you start out with one of the latter questions her answer will let you know if she's interested or not. Forcing convo on a girl who is nice and doesn't wanna be mean is NOT successful conversation.
5. Do NOT just hand her your phone and tell her to put her number in it. Eww, u overly confident dudes be killin us.
6. If you make eye contact, wait for the second eye contact....if she looks back at u a second or even third time....go get her tiger haha
5. DO make her laugh. If you happen to make it past one of the first polite questions (see number 4) and you get laughs out of her you are most likely..... #WINNING
6. READ HER BODY LANGUAGE...if she never looks into your face, gives you short answers, keeps walking fast, says hold on and makes a phone call, or starts texting....you have FAILED, you are bothering her and you should quit NOW.....your heading down the fake number road.
7. If she ignores you...just eat that, don't diss her after u just tried to bag, that's lame.
8. Ladies, do realize that your clothes and body type directly correlate to how much u will be hollered at. Just comes with the territory, if ur hella curvy and dress sexy, learn how to become immune to it.
9. Ladies, if you dress slutty (not sexy, slutty...there's a diff) please expect a certain type of dude to try and bag, and not in a polite way. The logic is..." if she dressed like a _____....she prolly is a ____. You fill in the blanks.
10. And Lastly, remember there are no absolutes in this HOLLERATION game. Different things work for different ppl. These are just general guidelines that will probably work for most. End of the day....Fellas, be yourself, talk to women how u want guys to talk to your mom or sister and you'll be okay. Ladies, lighten up, and take it all in stride. Remember.....nobody wants to be the ugly duckling. Lol
happy hollering!!!!
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